5 for strength
- Proactivity. Willful people will not be able to solve problems or repress them. They pack immediately or work so well that it often does not come to the problem.
- Persistent focus. They focus on what needs to be done - no matter what motivation, disabilities or obstacles. They can not be distracted.
- Mood Management. Strong-willed people actively and sympathetically process the inevitable feelings of frustration during setbacks (trendy keyword: self-compassion), which is why they are in a good mood at the decisive moment.
- Assertiveness. Implementation experts identify resistance, setbacks and problems not as catastrophes and failures but as challenges. That's why they stay tuned.
- impulse control. Strong-willed people do not fall victim to sudden impulses ("Oh, has no value anyway!"), Distractions, temptations, internal struggles or turmoil.
The will is always there
The good thing about this catalog is that each of these five wills can be trained. Consider, for example, the last, the impulse control.
When we want something, but do not do it, we do not suffer from a "weak will", but - roughly speaking - from two wills: one wants it and the other does not.
When the impulse controls us
Jasmine should definitely talk with her boss, she wants it on the other hand. On the other hand, she does not want to risk a racist. This impulse deters them from the clarifying pronunciation - unconsciously.
The impulse controls them - instead of vice versa. So she is torn inside and pinched. So long until she becomes aware of the unconscious will killer. Then he loses his power. Jasmin says:
Two souls in one breast
"On the one hand I want a reduction of my workload - on the other hand I fear the anger of my boss. So I just say no, that he can not be angry with me! "
Goethe's "two souls live, alas, in my breast" can not weaken your will if you let them both negotiate. This is also called inner dialogue.
Always in a good mood
Nothing weakens the will faster than lousy mood. Even the feeling "I have to do that now!" Is poison for the thirst for action. Simple trick from the Mood Management (so 3.): Replace "I must!" With "I want!"
Nonsense? Yes, if you are reading this. That does not work either. You should say that. Pick an unloved task and just say stubbornly, for example:
The will as a muscle
"I want to talk to the difficult customer!" Do not think! Just say it in a low voice. And repeat. Ten, twelve, twenty times.
Watch the effect: the will is a muscle. The more often you do sit-ups, the more well-defined your abs will be. It does not matter what you think: the main thing is enough repetitions. Just say enough "I want!" - and you really want to.
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