"You can do it quickly"
Another classic is: "You can still do that quickly!" How do you feel when people talk to you like this? Do phrases convey such enthusiasm, can one convey a vision in this way? If your goal is to transport your visions and inspire people, then you should choose a different form of communication.
Because behind these two examples, the list could be easily expanded, there is a distance to the people, a latent condemnation, the tendency to become uncertain, unfair comparisons are drawn, or the reward / punishment is played on the keyboard. If you want to inspire people, this is the wrong instrument.
The choice of words
Alone by the choice of your words you can achieve much. Replace "I'm not responsible for that" with, for example, "I think I'm not the right person for this question, but let's see how I can help you."
This creates a different atmosphere of conversation and you have created a future in communication with this formulation. In the second example, it would be conceivable: "I have so much to do at the moment and I have to take care of the project XY." Would it be possible for you to step in and work on this assignment?
The spirit behind the words
Behind these formulations there is obviously a certain mental attitude. If you change your inner attitude, this will lead to a certain choice of words and to a more open and finer communication.
Compact: The choice of words often happens unconsciously, but decides on the quality of the communication. Therefore, it is important to be very clear about what you want to achieve. For the inner attitude decisively determines the choice of words.
3 Tips for observing
Work on this topic by watching the daily communication around you.
- What are the formulations?
- What do you interpret when you hear certain phrases?
- Is this interpretation really true or do people behave awkwardly?
Refine the communication process
With these questions you will further refine your communication process. You will find further notes in the eighth chapter.
And now you watch your fellow men, smile at the connections that are now revealed to you!
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