Who smiles, is intelligent
The golden rule of small talk: smile, smile, smile! What for? The greatest fear of small talk is that of the refusal to be considered unsympathetic. Well, a smiling face always looks sympathetic. Always and everywhere.
Who smiles, acts measurably more intelligently. For real! Ask any ethnologist. Anyone who is nervous does not smile and thus transports his uncertainty to the contact person, who promptly reflects them via mirror neurons: Contact failed. Unfortunately, the higher your rank is, the more probable it will be.
Top managers have a hard time
Board members have a hard time with small talk. Because they often carry their title in front of sheer uncertainty or urgency and thus provoke at most submissiveness, but do not set in motion a small par tic talk. But: Small Talk and Wichtigtun nunmal not tolerate.
Unless you forget your rank for a moment and give yourself up to "normal". "Wow," say Small Talk partners then mostly: "Our board is a normal person. Actually very sympathetic! I never thought! "Resounding success!
Forgot your rank and title
And that's just because one time rank and title for ten minutes at the back, smiled and took a little on his own. That depends! That seems sympathetic. And: sovereign!
Forgetting the most dignified dignitaries anxiously. Because they did not read their Lao Tzu, "Only a truly great one makes himself small."
What do you have to think, too?
Because small talk also means to respond to the other. But that is exactly what many managers have problems with.
Many of them pinpoint their problem in small talk with the question: "What should I say?" The answer is: "Just think of something!" That's more than a stupid answer. Because it means: think first, then talk!
Enter the others
At the hotel bar, a group of aircraft construction engineers discover a group of attractive trade fair hostesses chilling after the service. None of the men dare: "What should I say? Surely they are not interested in aircraft construction! "
That's right: Helmut forgets for a moment the aircraft, takes off his watch, puts it in his pocket, goes over to the bar and asks: "Excuse me, does one of you happen to have the exact time?"
Prelude and retreat
Two of the hostesses look bored, two others swing up their left arm. Success! What if all four had bored? Then Helmut would have applied his second and third subject, which he had set up.
If the girls do not jump on it, they are guilty and not small-talk-suited. Then you retreat with a smile and a polite farewell, so as not to embarrass your opponent any more.
3 Tips for Small Talk: Do not be so serious!
After Helmut has learned the time, he says: "I'm a bit embarrassed now. I make planes fly, but I can not keep a watch on my arm. "Which is not a lie.
- Before you small talken: Get a topic right! One? Two to three are better.
- But: Do not get bored with your specialty! Unless you can tell them exciting anecdotes, which every layman finds entertaining.
- Humor, quiet self-irony, not to take himself seriously - the perfect tool for contact and small talk.
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