Selfness trend: success through self-discovery?

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Brad Pitt has done it in Tibet, Julia Roberts then: self-discovery, Selfness, is announced, if you want to be successful. To do this, meditate, go to the monastery or clean up with negative beliefs. 2 books show how it works.

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Brad Pitt, Dalai Lama and the superstars of Buddhism


First there is Khenpo Sodargye is one of the most famous Buddhist masters of the present. His first book has just been published in German. It says, "Happiness will find you if you do not seek it."

Brad Pitt in "7 years in Tibet" we know. We also know the Dalai Lama and his messages. But who knows the Next Superstar of Buddhism?

Buddhism in everyday life


Khenpo Sodargye's mission is to translate Buddhist wisdom into digitized and economized everyday life. Because: We can understand the most intelligent thoughts of Buddhism.

But how we can apply them in our daily lives is usually a mystery. The Tibetan Lama travels around the world explaining how far eastern philosophy can enrich us and our lives in lectures such as "A Way to Think in Turbulent Times" or "How Tibetan Buddhism Appeals to the Young and Urban?"

Living Buddhism


In his book, he recreates the Buddhist wisdom by telling rich stories on topics such as "meditation through mindful silence," "Sure it's just loss," or "Why is life so hard?". Transience, stress, jealousy and self-love: The topics are not new, but they are described by Khenpo Sodargye especially everyday.

The book of Buddhist wisdom is full of stories that settle in the mind and give impulses for a life on the pulse of the time with Far Eastern touch. Thus, the Tibetan tells of two brothers, in the 80. Floor of a high-rise building.

Forget the key in the backpack


One day the elevator is broken and they decide to walk all the stairs on foot. "As the 20. The fatigue has already taken possession of them, "says Khenpo Sodargye. Her backpacks stopped her and went on without ballast.

In the 40. On the first floor, the moaning grows and they argue about who is to blame for the situation. Finally, they go in the 60. Floor the power out. "Although they were still angry with each other, but did not bring the energy to bicker," says the Tibetan. In the 80. Once they have reached the floor, they are completely exhausted - and notice that they have forgotten the apartment keys in the backpack.

Living in the here and now


For Khenpo Sodargye, this story illustrates the Buddhist wisdom that we should not shift everything to the last minute, because we live in the here. Therefore, with 20 years the world is still open and we have enough energy. With 40 years, we have to hunch in the working life and in the family quite well and the stress is increasing. With 60 years, the situation is not much better, but we no longer have the strength to worry about the states.

As elderly people with 80 years, we then look back on a life that somehow did not go the way we thought it would. "With 80, you may also have the feeling that you have lost a very important key during your youth," says Khenpo Sodargye. The key to the Lama is the practice of Buddhism. Anyone who would have started doing so in the earlier years would have "perhaps already brought it to a certain degree of realization", says Khenpo Sodargye.

Positive Affirmations - Rethink Beliefs


In a similar direction, the book "On the trail of beliefs: How you control your life, instead of following brain ghosts" by Nicole Truchsess.

She makes it clear in her book: Our personality is crucially influenced by what happens around us. Especially in childhood attributes are attributed to us, which we gratefully accept to characterize ourselves. This includes, for example:

  • "You have always been forgetful."
  • "Your talent is more in sport than in thinking."
  • "I can not live without chocolates."

How we think about ourselves


Some structures and thought patterns burn into our brains until we do not question them any more. But we should, because some beliefs hinder us in our development. Throw the negative thinking patterns overboard and strengthen you with positive affirmations.

Some beliefs are positive. "I am a happy person and like to approach people" is a positive affirmation that advances and enriches us rather than hindering us. But what if we've always been told that we fit in perfectly with basic education, while the brother should graduate, even though he did not want that, unlike us? If the basic idea that girls are less smart and it is better to stack something lower, it can block us a lot of opportunities in life.

Gender stereotypes that shape us


The fact that gender stereotypes characterize us is shown by a study by psychologist Lin Bian and her Team at the universities of Illinois, New York and Princeton. The story of a person who behaved very, very smartly was told to young children at the age of five, as well as slightly older children between the ages of six and seven.

Afterwards, the children were shown pictures of men and women, all of whom looked good. When asked which person was the extremely smart person in the story, the younger children tapped a person of their own gender. The older children, however, mostly chose a male person. Further subsequent study runs thickened the thesis that girls from a certain age trust men more.

Question beliefs and make decisions more freely


When women feel inferior and assume before the interview that the competitor will get the job and the partner knows much better where the relationship is going, there is a negative thinking pattern that inhibits and makes unhappy. "Beliefs are deep-rooted beliefs that are often shaky and can be based on whispering others or generalizing one's own experiences," explains Nicole Truchseß.

The trainer caught herself putting up a creed when she wanted to cheer up her son, who had a bad German mark. "I wanted to comfort him and said, 'Do not worry about it, I could write the essays,' she says, 'as soon as that was said, I realized in a flash what I was doing there: I just had the failure in German quasi explained to the family tradition. "

Replace negative thought patterns with positive ones


The trainer also discovered similar negative patterns of thinking among her clients and made her subject matter. In her guidebook "On the trail of beliefs," she reveals and debases typical beliefs, in which the supposed truths are consistently thought through.

In an entertaining way, she traces old beliefs from our childhood that are always in the back of her mind and patterns of thought that make everyday life easier for us, but also a bit too comfortable. Those who want to break through their thought patterns, in the third part of the guidebook 22 exercises in the hand, can be processed with the negative beliefs and replaced by positive affirmations. Of course, you can do it!

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