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Looking for self-determination
Ever since, more and more people are looking for alternative forms of work and self-realization. Lifestyle designers want to create their own lives instead of following what society has planned for them.
As a lifestyle designer you decide what your life should look like in the future. You break with old assumptions and expectations of your environment to write your own rules from now on. That is exactly what I mean by self-determined life.
Decide on dependencies yourself
In the broader sense, self-determination is the independence of other people, of an environment, a social system, an employer and unwanted obligations that bring you no value. I do not want to say that dependencies always have to be negative. However, I would like to have the freedom to decide these dependencies myself. This includes
- when and where I work,
- with whom I spend my time,
- in which way I assure myself,
- as I care for my age,
- in which country I live and pay taxes and
- what conventions I follow.
The society in which we live is based on conventions. Without these unwritten rules and norms, living together peacefully would be difficult. But these conventions can limit us at the same time in our freedom of action.
The biggest hurdle towards self-determined life is for most of us mental. We ourselves are our biggest problem because we sabotage, question and dramatize where we can. To be critical of something new, we were brought up.
In order to live self-determined, you have to dismiss your skepticism about changes and instead question the status quo. You must not follow the majority, but trust your own feelings.
Maybe it's because of low self-esteem or social pressure - far too often we prefer to meet the expectations of others, rather than make ourselves right. At a young age we were taught that it is rude to say no.
Adults are responsible for their thoughts and actions
Always nod friendly and say thank you was the motto. In adulthood, we are responsible for our actions and consequences. That's why you always have the right to shake your head.
A good education, a house in the countryside and a career in a decent Company These are just some of the desirable goals that parents, teachers and acquaintances give us.
Change begins in the head
All these stories that are told to you are conventions. You have the right to question what is being told. Follow the stories you want to follow and say no to everyone else.
The first step to more independence in your life definitely starts in your head. Without throwing deadlocked thinking barriers overboard and letting new ideas in, all further steps make little sense. As you strive for more freedom, you must also be willing to take more responsibility for yourself.
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