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Relationships are not static
We hold on to old school friends, although the interests have shifted completely decades ago. We make new friendships that are based only on local proximity but not on similarities.
It is time to admit that relationships are not static. We are changing as much as the people around us. As soon as our values, interests and needs do not come to a common denominator, such relationships can and should be questioned.
Like in the crab basket
Do you know the story of the crabs that mercilessly withdraw anyone who wants to escape captivity in the basket? This is exactly how your environment - family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances - usually reacts when you tell them about your plans for a self-determined life and the planned independence.
It pulls you down again, for fear that something will happen to you in freedom, or worse, that you will feel better there than those who stay in the bucket. Instead of getting upset or bickering about your friends' incomprehension, accept the fact that you simply have different ideas about life.
The environment also changes with the lifestyle
Listen to the well-meaning Criticism but do not let yourself be pulled down by her just because the others do not (want to) understand your unconventional plan. Because one thing is very clear: As soon as your lifestyle changes, your environment will also change. New people enter your life and long-term contacts break off. This is the natural course that changes bring.
Jim Rohn put it aptly:
"You are the average of the five people you are closest to."
How close relationships affect our lives
Regardless of the exact number, you can confirm that for sure. Our closest relationships have such an impact on us that they can either bring our lives to a halt or change them.
Therefore, you should gather a group of people around you who are already living your desired lifestyle or at least encouraging you and helping you to make changes. As painful as separations may be, you will find new friends who enrich your life in many different ways.
Hard decisions are needed
Unfortunately, you will not get around making tough choices between your selfish plans and your family responsibilities. Of course, you should fulfill your responsibilities to relatives in need and, of course, take into account the interests of your family, but do not commit yourself to it out of pure habit. Do not make the mistake of feeling unnecessarily obliged to do something.
Also think about whether your newfound freedom can not even have a positive effect on family members. Can not it be that the unconventional education has a good influence on children, that your sister would like to visit you in exotic places of the world and that your parents are filled with pride and happiness, when you shape your life according to your ideas?
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