If the cellar door does not open ...
I myself actually did this with the cellar door of my Munich apartment. I have always pressed the wooden door in the cellar for two years, and forced my cartons and other objects into the cellar through the fairly wide gap that resulted.
Somehow this always worked. At the same time, I have cursed the person who has come up with such a weak-minded construction.
... and suddenly the door is open
You can imagine that I did not marvel badly when one day I went down with a friend in the basement, he wanted to deposit something in it, and this intuitively pulled on the door and this was suddenly wide open.
What thoughts have gone through my head in the situation to me and how openly my mouth stood, you can surely think.
Causal analysis simply misinterpreted
What happened? I did not do any bad or causal analysis, so I did not analyze the reason for the fact that the door did not open wide. The causal analysis is therefore primarily about the question of the "why".
Let's assume that you have been in an emotionally negative state for a long time. For example, you have had a bad, anxious feeling for a few weeks, because an important board presentation is due shortly. Or you have been annoyed for quite some time, because you do not really get the recognition of your new boss.
Emotions positively control
Your former boss had praised you significantly more. Let's assume you have mine resilienceAnd learn that controlling emotions is central, and want to do something to make them feel better.
What do you have to do now? Correct: You need to identify the reason for your emotionally negative condition to take the right action to make you feel better.
Take time to analyze things thoroughly
Highly resilient people differ from less resilient people in two ways in this area: First, they take the time to thoroughly analyze a situation, and, second, they are very good at identifying the right reasons for their emotionally negative condition.
What makes this clear is that you take the right action to feel better, and, see the cellar example above, they do not always make the same mistake.
Avoidance strategies do not lead to the goal
The person who feels anxious about the board presentation and who knows about it for years can, of course, precisely attest to this situation.
Perhaps she also thinks that she will not hold any presentations in the future. However, she could also make it clear that, despite numerous professional successes and a great many successful presentations, she is always too much of a challenge and has too little self-confidence.
Who is to blame for dissatisfaction
This leads to completely different approaches to the solution, in order to feel better before and during presentations. Likewise, the employee, who is not sufficiently praised, could recognize that he is too much dependent on the praise of other people, and just as the first person believes too little in his abilities.
But he can also make the decision to change the department or the company. After all, his supervisor is "to blame" for being frustrated and annoyed.
Solutions for more career success
In your view, which solutions will lead to more professional success and more lasting well-being? Our American partner Dean M. Becker expresses this situation with a wonderful sentence: "Resilience is our ability to bounce back, the ability to recover from setbacks. That's right! But there is more: resilience is the intelligent deployment of limited resources. "
The intelligent use of limited resources
Resiliency is therefore the intelligent use of limited (own) resources, which is expressed by the fact that we have aptly identified the reasons for emotionally negative states in order to make the right decisions on this basis.
We do not always make the same mistake, do not waste our resources on things we can not change anyway, and do not give up too soon, just before the finish.
Intelligence = causal analysis
A resilience factor, which you will find again and again in the scientific literature and which is also explicitly meant by causal analysis, is therefore also intelligence.
But relax: you do not have to be Albert Einstein to do a proper causal analysis. Therefore, we do not use the term intelligence, but rather the term "accurate thinking".
A thinking that helps us to correctly identify the reasons for setbacks and the associated emotional negative states, and then to let the right actions follow.
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