Make the other mouths?
Recklessness is unfortunately often misunderstood, as the ability to muzzle others with verbal weapons. Partly - and in certain situations that is the case. For example, when it comes to face personal insults and put an end to these.
But in this case the purpose also does not justify the means.
No verbal warfare
Accuracy is not to be confused with verbal warfare. With brutal linguistic means one can often, and also very easily, provoke violent reactions - also recognition. However, this type of recognition is based solely on the fact of the social seizure and exclusion of the other.
It is therefore almost always accompanied by an anxiety of those who are granted this recognition: an anxiety to be treated even in the same way as that which has just been linguistically and socially treated. It is also a kind of opportunism that plays a role in this kind of recognition. One would prefer the side of the victor - also for reasons of security.
Reasonable and socially competent
This martial form of repartee rarely has anything to do with proper reaction. Anyone who sees the verbal confrontation as a scene of social conflicts in which hierarchical circumstances are concerned takes the military origin of the word repartee too seriously.
To be ready to play also means to be socially competent. Social competence is characterized by the fact that one behaves sovereign, constructive and oriented towards generally acceptable values. Even when it comes to your own sovereignty To preserve or protect is a socially competent action bound to these factors.
Stay sovereign, but do not depreciate the others!
This means that the preservation of one's own sovereignty must not be done by degrading or violating the sovereignty of the other. The aim of a quick reaction is to overcome the problematic situation - to overcome it profitably. Of course, it should also be a question of being good.
But who is ultimately better off? The one who brutally suppresses the resistance; or the one who, with his reaction, respects both his sovereignty and strength, as well as opens the door to a constructive collaboration?
Dissen like the pros
It must not be made the mistake, however, to constantly use the same prefabricated phrases and templates. The audience and the jury notice this immediately and denounce such behavior. Rightly so, because that has nothing to do with repartee.
How can you train your own quick-wittedness?
10 tips for more repartee:
- Practice in word games: eg "The house painter sees red."
- Practicing in thought games: Eg "What do you imagine under a suspension bridge?" Or "Water, water, mainly water."
- Keep track of the dialogs
- Light up situations from multiple angles (multilateral thinking)
- Interpret abbreviations
- Make association exercises
- Follow-up: look for answers that are ready for the job, in situations where you missed them
- Record "word balls": eg "How much do you earn?" "I earn a lot - luckily my boss has not realized it yet."
- Expand your vocabulary
These exercises not only improve your ability to react quickly; they also make a lot of fun!
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