Afterwards you are always smarter
Who does not want to break the logic of the seemingly iron law "In hindsight you are always smarter!" And to be smart in advance? How often do we think that a different, better reaction would have helped us in certain situations - if only we had been more quick-witted.
There are situations in which we are suddenly confronted with unforeseen situations when talking to others. "Fleet spells", inappropriate criticism or even open, personal attacks. "And what now?" Often we lack the spontaneity or the courage for a reasonable, fast and intelligent counterattack in these moments.
Assess the situation correctly
In order to achieve this, the situation must first be assessed correctly. Recklessness always needs an occasion. Those who are "just like that" and in principle always "quick to hit" do not take their counterparts seriously and prevent any meaningful communication. Therefore, it is important to know whether a funny comment, a snide remark, a cheeky counterattack are just announced or not.
One important point is the opposite. How well do you know your conversation partner? Suppose it is your boss. If you know that he is an absolute choleric, who goes to the ceiling with every harmless rejection or joke, you might want to do without your agility. All? No not really! For: even a silence that is manifold can be ready.
But for too long, you should not be concerned with the situation analysis. Because this is what is important for spontaneity: spontaneous reactions! This certainly includes a certain risk. So you should know beforehand what you can risk and what is not.
You have to be aware that quick answers are rarely nice. Because of our upbringing, we often defend ourselves against being "naughty". That does not mean that you should offend, embarrass, or turn off your counterpart in any way you can.
Strikingness is not mean or brutal
On the contrary, repartee has nothing to do with brutality, disrespect or meanness. Anyone can do that. The goal of quick-wit is his own sovereignty to protect. But not at the expense of the sovereignty of others.
In order to be ready for a meadow that will give you respect and improve your image with others, and in the best case also with your conversation partner, you have to be careful not to be hurtful. Do not encounter a ludicrous insult with one.
Being sovereign without hurting
Try an absurd remark, such as saying, "Oh, listen, they're playing our song." That's how you maintain your sovereignty without hurting the other and, in the best case, your counterpart, maybe even a few Lacher.
You express that you have not violated the ludicrous insult and give the other the chance to save yourself to the level of the game by the playful element that lies in your answer. For you have already made this clear, she or he can give you nothing.
HipHop and rap have become a part of our culture, which is no longer to be forgotten. At least as far as the younger generations is concerned, this music style is part of everyday life. Here, however, it is not a question of musical preferences or aesthetic criticism of a particular form of music. This is left to everyone personally.
But what's interesting about hip-hop in our context is that there is a veritable "witty culture of dexterity", if you will. Individual rappers compete against each other in so-called battles and compete with each other.
Who disgest better?
The one begins and "disst" (in English: "offended" or "provoked") his opponent. He may then fight back or "back out" and so on. The audience or a jury then decides which of the two has "bettered" the other one better - who was more ready to beat.
This does not only sound like sports; this is also one. The competition between the rappers is very big (usually also sporty), so that an intensive training is necessary to insist on the stage.
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