Like on the Titanic
Imagine, someone has been traveling for a while on a cruise ship, which is now unfortunately licked. Through a hole penetrates water - not much, but foolishly too much for the pumps. Most of the passengers have already settled in rescue boats.
But this someone refuses to leave, and points out that the ship has been a safe and comfortable place to date. What dangers may threaten such a small boat on the ocean?
Ships and jobs that are doomed to sink
The cruise ship has finally proved its worth, and who knows already whether it will really end! The tour organizer will surely make sure that help comes soon. So why take unnecessary risks?
An absurd story. Naturally. Who would ever behave like that? Well, I know a lot of people who may not be clinging to sinking ships, but to jobs that will almost certainly be "their downfall" for the foreseeable future.
The logic of the security premise
And just like our crusaders, they follow the "logic of the safety premise". I have already described that the thought of change in most people triggers fear. The unknown we seem to automatically automatically as dangerous.
This mechanism is also useful to protect us against the risk of compromising our lives, it ensures our safety. His natural opponent is our pursuit of happiness, excitement, new experiences and growth. Both are created in each of us - but the individual who is in our upper hand is individually very different.
The security requirement is different
For some, a low level of dissatisfaction and stagnation suffice to immediately seek out new opportunities. His "internal security officer" will only get involved if the risks seem to threaten his existence.
Another person needs much more pressure for change and suffering, until he sets off. And even then, he is always eager to choose the solution with the least amount of risk - his security officer is always vigilant and often takes control.
Whether we tend to be on one side or the other depends on our experience, on the personality, and on the subject. For example, in private life, for example, we may be prepared to take higher risks than we do in our work or vice versa. The more security-oriented we are, the more stress means a possible change for us.
And a typical reflex to stress is the "dead-set reaction" (all living things react to danger with either attack, flight or dead spots): It causes me not to move or orient anymore, but only to stay where I am until the danger is over.
When the big brain rules
A fairly archaic reaction, which of course does not necessarily meet the requirements of the situation. But our big brain likes to be lord of the situation (even if it is hardly involved in the stress reaction), and quickly finds many good arguments, the others and ourselves explain that we do the best and most reasonable.
In addition, even when we are riding a dead horse or sinking with our ship ... stress also tends to overestimate the status quo and to overestimate the dangers that change could bring.
Do not panic!
Surprisingly often, I experience that people are afraid of a change in their job, to lose everything, and to be completely destitute on the road - although they estimate this risk rather rationally on closer examination.
This tendency to risk overruns may have helped our ancestors tens of thousands of years ago in survival. Avoiding deadly dangers was certainly more important than discovering something new.
The brain is still in the Stone Age
Only today - at least in professional life - are we no longer threatened by so many deadly threats. Unfortunately, our brain has not yet adjusted to this "new" situation. However we turn it around, finding new territory will always involve a certain amount of risk.
When I look, for fear, only to see a maximum of security in every situation, my radius of movement is very, very small. With so little inner freedom I will hardly be able to find a really new solution. Rather, I will find myself more frequently on sinking ships.
And what type are you?
Of course, there are also people who are alien to safety and who like to take high risks, if their lives are not just monotonous and uniform. You would never wait until your horse is dead ...
How would you rate it? What role does security play for you when it comes to your professional reorientation? Could it happen to you that you are still sitting on a dead horse a bit, because it seems so safe to you?
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