How does the response reflex work?
Think about your absolute favorite book. Where did you buy this book? - Once you have read this question, you will have gone back in time to answer them. For example, you'll remember the bookstore, the order page on the Internet, or the fact that you saw the book with a friend.
Maybe he even lent it to you or even given it to you. This is an example of the so-called response reflex. They have already known him above in the state control through affirmations. People are questioning beings and can not tolerate open questions.
You do not have to answer every question
Use this reflex and apply it to your attackers. Let him do the work himself! The German journalist and former editor of the journal Capital, Johannes Gross, said in this sense:
"Good parents teach their children: Thou shalt not lie! They forget to teach the child: you do not have to answer every question. "
Edit justification reflex
As soon as two people meet, there is a game of action and reaction. Attacks or reprisals, for example, quickly lead to justifications. This is not necessary!
Pay attention to key actions like this: On why questions we usually justify ourselves with "Because ...". Attacks provoke defense or counterattacks. Once our opinion is said, we barely move away from it.
Avoid answering any question
Avoid answering any question or responding to any reproaches. Next time someone says to you:
"You promised me it would work that way!" Then explain - nothing. For explanations, you are likely to reap only ingratitude or indignation. Instead, say, "I was obviously wrong."
React, instead of being offended
That's the same with the personal one Criticism, If you feel personally criticized, do not discuss this criticism. React immediately! The longer you tolerate an attack, the harder it will be to fend it off later:
"That may be, but right now we're talking about ..." "Before I answer: Be so kind and give us your name. So we can all get to know each other a little better. "
Always remember: if you claim something, you must prove it and you should be able to sign it personally! Maybe even in court.
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