The power of the subconscious: Have positive self-talk
Positive soliloquies are not cheap or ineffective tricks of successful coaches of the last century. Even Émile Coué, the founder of modern, conscious auto-suggestion, healed his patients with the sentence: "I feel better and better every day in every way!" This affirmation releases affirmative, unconscious forces.
While Émile Coué would offer us a statement like, "I get smart every day," Noah St. John would ask a question, "Why am I smart?" As with any question, the subconscious will automatically look for answers that we can only understand if we understand them.
This is also the case if we really should not be ready at all. But we are already getting ready to be ready and to develop our resources: we will be able to cope better even in difficult situations, because we already know how quick-wittedness feels.
How does the response reflex work?
Think about your absolute favorite book. Where did you buy this book? - Once you have read this question, you will have gone back in time to answer them. For example, you'll remember the bookstore, the order page on the Internet, or the fact that you saw the book with a friend.
Maybe he even lent it to you or even given it to you. This is an example of the so-called response reflex. They have already known him above in the state control through affirmations. People are questioning beings and can not tolerate open questions.
You do not have to answer every question
So use this reflex and apply it to your attackers. Should he do the work himself! German journalist and former editor of Capital magazine, Johannes Gross, said in this Sense:
“Good parents teach their children: You shouldn't lie! They forget to teach the child: you don't have to answer every question. ”
Edit justification reflex
As soon as two people meet, there is a game of action and reaction. Attacks or reprisals, for example, quickly lead to justifications. This is not necessary!
Pay attention to key actions like this: We mostly justify ourselves to “Why…” on why questions. Attacks provoke defense or counter-attacks. Once our opinion is said, we hardly move away from it.
Avoid answering any question
Avoid answering any question or responding to any reproaches. Next time someone says to you:
"You had promised me it would work that way!" Then explain - nothing. For explanations, you will most likely only reap ingratitude or indignation. Instead, say, "I was obviously wrong."
React, instead of being offended
It is the same with personal criticism. If you feel personally criticized, don't discuss that criticism. But react immediately! The longer you tolerate an attack, the harder it will be to fend it off later:
"That may be, but at the moment we are talking about ..." "Before I answer: Be so kind and give us your name. This way we can all get to know each other a little better. ”
Always remember: if you claim something, you must prove it and you should be able to sign it personally! Maybe even in court.
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