The fairy tale of poor Schmitt
Sometimes you are just too nice for this world. Or is at least so pretend. For instance, Schmitt complained about his back pain. He had not had an eye all night, and he only surpassed the day in the office with painkillers. Ohye Ohje .. if you could not but the filestuffel still there for him, so that he at least today punctually comes home ...
You can - because you are not a monster. Poor Schmitt, bad back pain like that, he can not do anything, let him rest.
Say no - but please on time!
And oh no wonder, the whole of the next day Schmitt is doing fine. Super thinks, he is fully there. And allows a small Criticism in his work, which came to mind when working through the file stack.
But alas, suddenly the back pain is back, Schmitt squirming in pain on the chair, he still has a headache, the poor guy. In the end, it is still to blame because it dared to criticize him.Also apologized. "Yes," Schmitt hacked right away "Your criticism has certainly promoted that ..." And Selbsredend you will stay longer today to work through the next batch of files, because Schmitt is of course gone earlier.
School games call these psychological consequences. The deliberate or unconscious defense of a bad conscience that is based on a social convention - in this case: Schmitt is sick and weak, you have to help him.
Such people, however, sometimes take the helpfulness shamelessly, even without realizing it. So you want to meet the people so a little bit, helpful to reach out to the little finger - but they always want more than just ready to give, preferably the same hand, oh even the whole arm. And then?
Sometime the big bang comes
Then it comes to the point where the smiths of this world are bellowed, until they no longer know where the front and back are, because they are really so small and weak. And one is also still the asshole, because one has made the weak, sick Schmitt to the sow.
And the moral of the story? Say "no" in time. As about the second batch of files. When you realize that your own goodwill is being exploited. After all, you have already met the colleague. Sure, it makes you feel like a bad person. But later, the colleague will also realize that this is not the case - and respect one for it.
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