In the middle of the fat bowl
Whether in the business or in the private environment, faster than we think you are in the midst of the faux pas. about blaspheming on the floor and the colleague stands behind one? Forgotten the name of the other person when greeting? In the middle of serious conversations drop an inappropriate comment?
For example, during important business lunches: you want to leave a particularly good impression with your new supervisor, you want to be witty and eloquent and have a chat all round. But instead, out of sheer remark, an inappropriate remark about the boss's wife slips out. Unexpectedly, the situation tilts and the previously good and easy mood is over.
Crack point clothes
Apparently, clothing is the sticking point for many people - even if you do not accidentally walk around in a tunic. Personnel service provider OfficeTeam asked 1.300 managers in the US and Canada about their most embarrassing moments in their professional lives.
And most of them say that their own wardrobe is already a disaster: the speaker with an open trouser slit is in front of a big audience, his own shirt is accidentally worn on the left or you notice in the office that you have two different shoes or even the Slippers on.
Laughing fits and wrong ones eMails
But other examples also show how quickly a situation can become unpleasant: that would be laughing fits in meetings, colleagues about a colleague or the Chef blasphemers standing right behind them, personal mails that accidentally reach the wrong addressee or job placements that are sent to the wrong job applicant.
Also happens quickly: In the morning in the hustle and bustle with a wrong buttoned shirt go to work, get hiccup in a meeting due to excitement in a meeting or accidentally locked in the office.
Shit Happens: Seeing embarrassment
Because every one of us always happens big and small embarrassments, whether we want to sink into the next hole. Me too - for example, that I just make it back on an important date but smooth again, aplze on my clothes aplizieren.
Embarrassment happens again and again. But most people make the mistake of wanting to circumvent such grease-pans right from the beginning; but that can only partially work because we are just not perfect. And yet it is always trying convulsively to maintain the perfect picture.
The better tactic: To stand the embarrassment, react swiftly and laugh at yourself. Because you lose the fear of embarrassment, cramps less and acts more relaxed. This is definitely less embarrassing.
If it happened then and you are standing with both legs in the middle of the fat bowl: Exactly superior: Do you really feel hurt in his honor and dignity? Or is not the incident just a short nuisance that you should not spend too much time thinking about?
What is embarrassing, I determine!
"I determine what is embarrassing!" - According to this motto, embarrassments can also be consciously practiced: simply commit small embarrassments in small, unimportant situations.
You will find that the others are far from being as piquated as they believed. And: Often the reaction of others also depends on how to handle a situation yourself. So whoever stays cool and ready to hit, probably even has the laugh on his side.
Embarrassments on the net
Incidentally, in the age of social media, such embarrassments happened much faster - just think how quickly you got the wrong tweet out. Someone recently tweeted: “Social media proves one thing: we are all human”. And a friend remarked: “It is human”.
The famous Streisand effect shows that it is fatal to want to iron out such misfortunes at any price. This is why they often attract more interest and make themselves ridiculous. Better: Just standing, working or laughing.
Five tips for dealing with embarrassments:
- To remain calm: In an embarrassing situation everyone would understandably want to run away. But it is better to remain calm, breathe through and then simply continue.
- To this end: Everyone has already happened a misfortune. Anyone who recognizes their own situation at an early stage, should take it with humor and, if possible, defuse the situation with an amusing sentence. This makes it easier for the colleagues to go to the agenda more easily.
- Show humor: It is best to carry the thing with humor, not to take yourself so seriously and to move to the agenda. Embarrassing slip-ups show that the colleague is only human. That's nice.
- Apologize: Whether blasphemed by a colleague who hears this, or a personal mail is sent to the wrong addressee - in both cases an apology is necessary.
- Keep working: No matter how uncomfortable the situation is, it's best not to talk about it for long. The faster the matter is over, the faster it is forgotten by others. Incidentally, and especially for the Internet.
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