Harmony at any cost?
Conflict situations should, if they can not be completely avoided, ideally run so that both sides feel comfortable with the result. What consequences this educational culture brings, we see every day in the workplace: Salary negotiations with the boss? Maybe next week. Discuss the disagreement with the colleague? Tomorrow…
Harmony at any price? At first glance, this may be a worthwhile goal. But in truth, this goal does not help us. Rather, it prevents us from advocating for fundamental change and thus developing ourselves further.
Standstill instead of development
Instead, we move away from our own aspirations and goals and close compromises, which usually have little to do with what we really want to do.
Stagnation and stagnation are the consequences - both privately and professionally. We may live with the result, but we are not happy. The result: dissatisfaction, if not aggression. Frustration builds up - often at the expense of health.
Extend until the doctor comes
Many decision-makers, executives and employees are confronted with this topic and are surprised when the situation at the workplace has health consequences and makes one's own powerlessness sick. To endure conflicts, not to be able to live out aggression and dissatisfaction leads to physical symptoms.
A quarter of all managers feel burnout syndrome
A survey of the European online job market StepStone shows: Almost a quarter of German specialists and executives feel distinct Bournout syndromes, about 32 percent work stress is already on the reserves. In international comparison, the Germans with these results sad leader. In comparison, in Denmark, two-thirds of the respondents are very well aware of their workload.
Unfortunately, burnout is often not recognized immediately because there is no medically clear diagnosis. Rather, the disease runs creeping in different phases. And the symptoms that occur can be a little different for everyone. Burnout is usually called when someone is constantly burned out and exhausted, their performance drops sharply and when the state of inner emptiness persists for a longer period of time.
Who is at risk?
Particularly burnout-endangered are people who dedicate themselves to their job with strong personal commitment, as is often the case in social professions. But also self-employed or executives in big ones Companythat are under constant time pressure are increasingly affected.
Initially, these people feel the greatest satisfaction in completing their tasks: they feel needed and useful, so they dedicate themselves with great commitment to their professional goals and ignore basic physical needs such as eating, sleeping or relaxing.
However, anyone who does not regenerate and expose their bodies to the constant release of stress hormones is soon exhausted. Therefore, the initial euphoria soon kills: you feel constantly rushed and overloaded, and over time, you are less and less able to distance yourself from job stress and recover.
Both the willingness to perform and the ability to empathize and cooperate with others are decreasing; The feeling of not getting enough recognition for one's own work and being exploited is spreading. Even in private life there are more and more conflicts. At the end there are guilt feelings, a low self-esteem, constant fear and nervousness and impatience.
Passive mode instead of active changes
In addition, burnout sufferers often feel helplessly exposed to their fate and can not do anything about it. Dealing with fellow human beings also becomes more difficult because mistrust of others and aggressiveness increasingly lead to conflicts.
Although a burnout is not recognized internationally as an illness, but as a problem of coping with life, its symptoms are very similar to those of widespread mental disorders and disorders, especially depressive disorders.
The way out of the burnout: No say!
And their number in turn has risen massively in recent years. In Germany, there are eight million people affected. A part of the problem: instead of ripping the oars, finding the causes to the bottom and a bit rigorously change, many sufferers fall into the passive mode.
Passive mode? That means nothing else than that we come to terms with a situation. Through praise and suppression, also called procrastination, we fall into a veritable paralysis. From this, however, we must risk the liberation if we want to succeed professionally and privately. The liberation only succeeds by a decided no!
Boundaries lead to success
Who says no to sit out, to lazy compromises and to the cuddle course, who draws his own limits and makes himself independent of the will and the consent of others.
It can not be instrumentalized or clamped for other purposes. It assures itself the diversity of action and the vision to be able to act independently. This ultimately results in professional success, personal happiness and a good future perspective for the society in which one would like to live.
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