The way to the dream job
Some people have big professional dreams, and that's very good too. One would like to be a test pilot, the next development worker, another would like to own one Company conduct.
Not all professional projects are accessible to everyone - some dream jobs are almost impossible due to certain factors such as age or physical fitness. Others require years of construction work or commitment that can not be achieved at the moment.
In small steps to success
Nevertheless, such a great professional goal can be helpful in any case: Either I find out what interests me so much, and try to find another, more easily realizable activity, which aims in a similar direction.
Or I look at my dream as a long-range goal and concentrate on the first steps in this direction. So far, so constructively.
Better a growling stomach than no pancake
But it is also different: I can use a career as an argument, so that I do not have to move from the spot. As if I were very hungry, would now like to eat pancakes, but unfortunately they are not on the menu.
So I prefer to eat nothing with a growling stomach and rave about how delicious pancakes are now - not a sensible strategy.
I call such a mechanism an if-trap: By making my actions dependent on a certain condition that will not happen with great certainty, I avoid being active and perhaps realizing the second best idea.
So I have a "good excuse" for myself and others that I am hungry and dissatisfied. If, for example, I've been working as an accountant for years and the job is down my throat, I have to feed a family and dream of working as a self-employed organic farmer, this idea will hardly be implemented in a hurry.
Long-term goals instead of short-term changes
It would be constructive to look at it as a long-term goal and to prepare myself for it by means of further education, research and networking in order to make the transition possible in a few years.
This course would of course require a high degree of perseverance and frustration tolerance. I would have to endure my unloved job for a while, and my reward would be far away and not 100% secure.
Impossible, paper basket, done
On the other hand, I have a chance to one day do what I really want. With the do-or-not strategy, I make it superficially easier by my wish the punch "impracticable" give and thus promote the trash.
At any suitable opportunity, I'll get him out, dream or tell others how nice it would be if ... I explain (to myself and others) that I would rather give up my dead horse today than tomorrow - the only real alternative, alas not feasible.
Day dreams that make the gray job day more tolerable
And maybe most people nod then and confirm that this really does not work. I always leave some pressure inside. For reveling in beautiful dreams makes the gray Joballtag slightly easier to bear for a while - like a cinema film that lets me forget the reality for two hours.
Such a wonderful idea! But nothing changes. In doing so, I am using this strategy as a stone in the way, which could lead me to many other, perhaps somewhat smaller but still good solutions.
Do you have a Traumberuf or a nice big professional idea that you consider to be unattainable and use as an argument to hold onto your current job?
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