Answer questions properly?
In fact, you are free to ignore a question or expectation. The "overcoming, misting" method is, however, difficult for people who are more quiet. Their character implies that they want to answer every question properly.
So what can you do if your desire to act in conversation takes over? First, take each utterance of the other person as a conversation offer that you can accept or reject just as well. Instead of being silent, you can simply start a new theme and direct the conversation to a third direction which is both true and true.
A wonderful example of this can be found in Loriot in a well-known animated film The Interview or Pneumatic Plastology. In the film, Mr. Gilling wants to be the Chair of Pneumatic Plastology, Professor Heubl, interview live in the studio. However, he still has to wait for the start of the program. And the two bridge the time with an absurd dialogue: The Lord left: "My wife is a Capricorn."
The Lord on the right: "I have a long-haired dachshund."
The Lord left: "I am fish. Capricorn and fish are doing just fine. "
The Lord right: "I used to have two long-haired dachshunds, that did not work at all ..."
Just change the topic
The two each pick up a cue from the other and then tell of something completely different. Since our first goal is always to get the other person out of his mind, it is also a legitimate way to redirect the conversation in this way. Then next time you say in a similar situation, for example: "Oh, where I see this potted plant, you already noticed ..."
Just as in the case of the Plastologie-Interview everyone tells their own story, you can always start a new topic in a conversation. But do not exaggerate: As with many poisons, which heals in small doses, but fatal in high concentrations, it is also with this quick-reaction method.
Praise your attackers!
Other ways to divert the conversation: Think about what you want to compliment the other person or how you can praise them. As a rule, your attacker will be pretty baffled. For a verbal overlap to get a praise - such a reaction must first come to mind. And then you have to manage them elegantly. Possible introductions for this are: "They know each other very well ..."
"There speaks many years of experience."
"I admire your linguistic presentation."
Let your starve your long arm
We also keep our distance, of course.
Do you ask questions or comments from your counterpart? Just skip this one! The elegant ability to strike is also the ability not to want to strike back.
Let conversation partners who try to get you to the palm of your hand simply starve to the long arm. The provocations will then stop quickly.
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