Method for the ego
"The benefit of wisdom is that you can be stupid. The opposite is more difficult." said Kurt Tucholsky (1890 - 1935), German journalist and writer.
Just because you would probably like more of it, please use this method carefully! It is best for communication, if you first practice these methods internally so that they are available to you as a pattern of thought and action. However, they only apply it in an absolute emergency and then speak it out.
Risks and side effects
The beauty of all ten quick-paced methods is that they almost always affect us. If we get a good response in the style of the models 6 to 8, we feel even less inwardly as a victim. We are much more mentally warm, so we can better navigate through the 5 method.
So, for the methods 6 to 8, always remember that this type of defense is funny to ourselves, but it is likely to create bad feelings in others. Especially in conversation with customers or their own Chef This is rarely helpful in the result.
And now to the quick-wittedness method 'The other side ...'
Like in the Space Zoo
Years ago, a short story about a space zoo, a large space ship that travels from one planet to another, as before, the wandering circus appeared from city to city. On each planet, the space ship folds away the outer shell, and the inhabitants can look at the animals of foreign planets behind glass for an appropriate fee.
On departure, the captain then reveals to his passengers the next destination. It turns out that the animals of the space shuttle are passengers of a planetary tour. In order not to get any foreign infections, they look from the space ship the other surroundings through the armored, transparent walls of their luxury apartments. - A very nice example for the other side. The laughing third is the travel agent, who can pay off both the visitors and the visitors.
An attack says a lot about the attacker
The main problem with attacks is that we refer the other's statements to ourselves, then feel bad or offended. But who decides that you were actually attacked? Maybe the message of your interlocutor referred to himself and his own personal problem ...
In the sense of an elegant quickness, we no longer have to refer to a statement, but can leave it at our counterpart. Or we change the relationship and the framework. It is important that we act appropriately instead of pushing the target. Let us strive for a cultivated form of verbal encounter after we have decided that the method "The Other Side" is also appropriate for the current situation:
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