What does the attack trigger?
Feel the inner feelings that trigger an attack on you. Perhaps you notice that you have already physically reacted to the outside. They have altered your posture, legs crossed one another, leaning back, looking ashamed, and the like.
Such point victories for your opponent are not a broken leg. At least now, however, look at the other intelligent and then turn away bored the look. Do not distort the eyebrows or the corners of your mouth!
Stabilize the ego
In the case of attacks or reprisals, the first step is always to stabilize one's self-esteem. Only in the second step can you respond to the content and reproaches - if you want that at all! You do not have to host uninvited guests either. Often the conscious restraint brings more advantages. She is always better than talking too much, too fast or thoughtless.
In a lecture on the subject of readiness, a listener asked if you always had to say something. No, you do not have to! But if you say nothing, you should at least keep silent. Federal Chancellor Angela Merkel is also doing this.
Often the pause as a strategy of an elegant quickness is sufficient. Just as a flirtation does not have to follow a relationship at the same time. If you have not understood something properly, silence and the preservation of inner peace is the best choice anyway.
This pattern defuses a situation already massively. Usually, however, it is the introduction for one of the other methods. Use this time to prepare your own repetitive response. This is especially appropriate in the case of an outbreak of anger or lump-sum reproaches.
As a rule, we have the need for a pronounced answer. However, it should not be an unreflected reflex, and even after a break it is even more confident. Your silence calls on your opponent to become more precise and provide more information.
This method is extremely gentle and therefore well suited for disputes with business partners, which you do not want to bother. If you practice the method of "silence, overthrow" in your daily encounters, then master it even in difficult situations.
When you are listening, look pleasantly at your opponent, keep your eyes short, and then turn away bored. Aborting the eye contact is very important. If this does not happen, he is an invitation to continue. But you do not want that.
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