The compulsion to be happy
Ecstatic faces, bright eyes, joy wherever you look. Good-humored people everywhere. Really? Certainly in advertising! Tempting product presentations bring us in the dark season with a lot of bright lights in the mood. Seamlessly, the promises for the most beautiful time of the year join.
Possibly nonexistent vacation dreams are awakened and the fulfillment is promised. Guaranteed happiness in distant realms. It's your own fault if you don't let yourself be infected. The compulsion to be happy is hard to bear. Few can really escape the seemingly joyful temptations of consumption. While others are forced to do so due to tight budgets. Or for this very reason buy zest for life and then mortify it in installments. Even that people spend their lives lonely is not provided for in the “prescribed” and standardized happiness of prosperity.
Give without Sense
And of course we want to let our fellow human beings share in this happiness. We show it off and pass it on.
With carelessly bought unity gifts. Gifts that look like something more than they actually are. Refined packaging distracts from the often meaningless content. Gifts without meaning, but gifts that you just stop because it's part of it. Because gifts - whatever - are the expression of love and recognition.
Joy in the special offer
For all generosity (sometimes a bit of cockiness), the whole thing should not cost too much, of course. A bargain does it too. No matter which festival is pending in the course of the year, the matching special offers are already lying in wait as a seducer. A ready-packed shower set, that always arrives.
And why bother choosing a special flower arrangement to suit the gifted personality? Finally, at the discount store, there are ten roses packaged for 2,99 Euro (guaranteed to be produced in an environmentally friendly way and prepared by happy people with much love). But is that really the purpose of the whole? Does it all make sense to us? How much more love was there in a meadow or garden flower bouquet from children's hands!
Whether it's our own luck or whether it's a gift: there must be a purpose behind it. Why do we celebrate a perfect feast with a lavish, home-cooked meal? Why do we do something that costs time, money and nerves? Because it is expected of us? Because we believe that it is expected of us? Often it is the (supposed) social constraints that cause such activities.
One feels obliged to do something. The pressure is correspondingly high. Of course, an enthusiastic host or passionate amateur cook likes to share his passion with like-minded people, be they friends or family. That will succeed then. Because the sense it makes for the host is felt. Equally fulfilling, however, can be a joint visit to the café. Stress-free, comfortable and with time for each other. Or an evening walk in the park, an exhibition visit, a football match. Or, or, or. Main thing with sense.
No sense to go
Sinn to go does not exist. Not as fast food, not as a complete package or all-round service. And certainly not as a special offer. Sense is grounded in ourselves. Often there is something dormant in us that wants to be awakened.
For that we have to listen to ourselves, to track what moves us. In order to recognize what gives meaning to our lives, it is indispensable to deal with oneself. Just before that, some people are afraid. It could indeed come to light that so many things in life so far, perhaps made little sense. Of course that hurts. But it can also free you from shaking off old-fashioned ballast and leaving it behind to focus on something new and valuable.
To find happiness: with heart and mind
But with the intellect this will hardly succeed, although the mind is necessary to recognize it. When it comes to meaning, the emotions are added to the ratio. That means the heart has to be part of it, too.
A bit of passion, the for-something-burning, the joy of doing things. With such a power source, we do not have to motivate ourselves. Rather, the motivation lies in ourselves, just in the sense that we recognize in our actions. Each of us has the opportunity to focus on the essentials. To think about what is important and what really matters in life. Not presents and certainly not festively packaged shower sets.
What really matters
What really counts are moments in life. People. Conversations. Adventures. Why do not we give time vouchers? But we also really redeem. Time is the most precious thing we can give to someone. Profound conversations without the smartphone in your hand. Cooking together, without pretension to perfection.
And tell your partner what you love, admire and enjoy each day. Such gifts go inward, whereas the shower gel rolls on the skin. So let us use our time to reflect on what is really going on in life, in a partnership, in the role of parent, friend, colleague and human being. Let's take the first small step.
Fill with SENSE every day
Thinking about your own life is not bound to any date. Each day is quite deliberate to track down thoughts. Reflecting on what's really in our lives and what we might want to change.
One goal could be to experience every single day more consciously and with a little more sense. Let us remember our lives. We only have this.
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