Do introverts have to change?
Ambassadors demonstrate impressively how valuable it is to understand both sides. The question of your own intro or extraversion helps you to get to know yourself better and to be able to act more authentically.
A question that is also often asked: Can introvert people change if they want to? My question is: Why should they? And I think one can assume that the preference for introversion can not be changed. Why should you be permanently against your preferences? I do not think this is healthy.
Do only what is good for you!
Of course, to a certain extent, less favored behaviors can be well realized, that's just normal. Otherwise, hardly anyone would get up early and go to work, would they?
Look for yourself, what feels real to you and when you pretend. I would leave the latter one! Instead, you can pursue all goals well with quiet means.
Introversion - a problem for people in communications professions?
This text is aimed primarily at people who move in communication-rich occupations. It offers a few thoughts and, above all, many concrete pointers to be able to authentically succeed here.
I personally would like to be introverted by introverts, that you do not use introversion as an excuse, but (just as all people) become aware of their strengths and are left to their own weaknesses.
Can and should one change his behavior?
At the moment of trying out, new behaviors always seem alien and strange, since you have to give yourself a bit of time and give a chance. You can then decide what suits you best.
In my experience, it helps many people already to realize that some things are simply normal for themselves and that this is easy to accept in the future.
Break out in a traveling small talk?
An example: I was recently at a seminar as a participant. Do you know this queasy situation when you meet the (revered) course leader and the other participants for the first time at the seminar location?
In the past, I had been trying hard to lead a stirring little talk (for which I was about as much as a hedgehog as a toilet paper), or make me somehow useful, only to be visible.
Better: Just wait and see!
Today I just wait a while, take my time, feel and watch for a moment. Then at some point a very pleasant small talk and everything is good. The "trick" here is just the serenity to accept my "peculiarities" friendly.
So there are not always techniques and tools needed, it is sometimes enough to know a little bit more about yourself and to accept some things with calmness. That too is a "quiet revolution" for me.
Tips for Executives
Anyone who has thought about the topic for a few minutes can no longer wish that "everyone will join in the discussion right away" or that all employees will join in the evening to demonstrate their cohesion. I also have some tips for executives:
- Get informed: If you have people among you who are clearly introverted and / or extraverted, then it is useful to know more about them.
- Take it: It is a small effort to embrace the peculiarities of both types and it is extremely helpful to deal with them.
This way, bosses and teams benefit from introverts
Equal treatment soon seems to be no longer ideal and so will be for both you and Chef as well as for the executives everything easier. In return for this extra effort, you will otherwise benefit from the cooperation:
- You will benefit directly from your moderation skills as a leader, if you consider loud and quiet people a little differently - for example, through the input people bring in who think a little differently.
- Staff conversations become easier, just like the whole area of teamwork, because you can be more specific.
The mixture depends
Incidentally, before a false impression arises: I find extraverted people also not bad, Oh no, quite the contrary! This is a misunderstanding which sometimes arises and I always regret it very much. Extraverts are wonderful and precious.
In both work and private life, it is unbeatable when one has to deal with many different people. This makes everything easier and more comfortable. My concern is that people dare to be authentic and to stand by themselves. This makes the extraverts easier to do according to my introvert perception, so I turn to my quiet fellow human beings.
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