The mentality makes it
Only one in five executive positions in German medium-sized companies is occupied by a woman. For the DAXCompany even only one in ten board members is a woman.
The revolutionary gender change in the executive floors remains after the introduction of the women's quota. Often companies lack suitable candidates. It is not so much the professional qualification that plays a decisive role, but rather the mentality of women.
Power games between women
The famous mare's bitch has no linguistic counterpart, because this phenomenon is profoundly feminine. When women interact with other women, conflicts are more common than between men and women.
What's more, women are even in the way of each other's career advancement. Surveys have shown that only one in five women would prefer to have a gender mate as a boss. Why?
Allow other women to succeed
Because women have a harder time asserting themselves with a female boss. Instead of finding a mentor in her, they often find themselves in power games again: proposals are ignored, ideas boycotted, the pressure of expectation rises. Often the self-confidence of ambitious employees then falls by the wayside.
Unfortunately, those who have made it to the top of their game as a woman all too often defend their sinecure against female competition instead of looking forward to company. And who is still on the way to the top, feels the pressure to have to outdo the intercourse, the more so.
3 key competences for successful women
The energy consumed in the rivalry would be much better invested in cooperation, respect, recognition and mutual appreciation.
Key Competency # 1: Conflict Capability
Life is not a petting zoo, no question. And where there is no will to cooperate, but also no way past the other, then it is important to be able to carry out conflicts as well. Not every conflict has to be avoided at all costs, or it must be carried out indirectly on secondary sides so as not to be subject to rivalry. Open confrontation can be more beneficial than secret integration or quiet guessing. Dear women, working on your ability to conflict.
Separates thing from the person. Sporty, fair and objective - that should be the basic rules of any dispute, not only with your sex mates. Avoid talking to your alleged opponent on allegations and blame, but describe your perspective and listen to the other exactly. Mutual understanding goes further than unclear misunderstandings or misperceptions.
Key Competency No. 2: Self esteem
Let's just accept one thing from the beginning: there will always be one who is more beautiful, smarter, or more powerful than ourselves. The key to self-confidence is to accept yourself as we are. Constant comparison and envy only leads to dissatisfaction and doubts. Remember what you have! Appreciation and recognition begins with us.
Appreciate your achievements and achievements, recognize your personality. Those who are at peace with themselves also consider other benevolent ones. On the other hand, those who have a lack of self-esteem tend to lower others in value. However, every now and then, it is worth checking the self-image: how do you see yourself and how do others see you? In the future, where the greatest deviation from the foreign and self-image prevails, your focus should be on future - and not on your dreaded counterparts.
Key Competency # 3: Tolerance
The Zickenkrieg knows many scenes. Not all are in the office. Sometimes fronts are created solely by the fact that a woman decides for child AND career. We complain about inadequate equality, unfair pay and the lack of women in top management. But as long as women and mothers are condemned by their peers for setting their priorities (family, career, ...), no women's quota in the world will change the situation in management and in companies.
Therefore, I appeal to the tolerance of women among themselves. If we women really strive for equality in all areas, we should focus on our common qualities beyond envy and resentment - and turn marehood into women's power.
Conclusion: women have to stop blocking themselves
We women block ourselves and others. Mare biting is one of those female tripping hazards that obstructs and paralyzes the forward striving of women to the top.
Not only that we women torpedo each other with our mare's bitchiness - we also waste our energy and sabotage our own performance. Envy gnaws at our self-esteem, self-confidence and contentment.
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