How mindfulness helps
This observation of one's own inner processes is also called mindfulness and is an important property for our theme. You are generally more responsive to others, the more you deal with yourself, with your feelings and your reactions.
Therefore, train your perception of something that has been said, the perception of your feelings that have been triggered at you; and learn to separate your feelings and your conscious assessments from each other.
Dodge is better than revenge
Step inside, so you do not overwhelm your own emotions. As always from a Feldherren hill always keep the overview, leads us around the stimulus reaction trap.
Dodge is better than revenge and retaliation: anyone who really wants to meet and injure is more annoyed by a sovereign reaction than by a counter-attack.
The red buttons
Words transport more than just thoughts, attitudes and ideas. Dieseling words can produce completely different reactions in different people, as perception psychology confirms. After that, there is no objective reality.
For every human being is really what he constructs in his imagination and what he can perceive because of his personal filters. So we evaluate all the stimuli that flow into us through past experiences. We leave our fingers off the hot stove and know tomorrow how we have opened a door.
The keys to understanding the present
Our memories and experiences are the key to our very individual understanding of the present. This means for the quick-wittedness that each individual will have internalized, individual trigger or stimulus words, which cause joy, anger, frustration or counter-defense.
In order not to be attacked by yourself, be sure in which situations you always react as sensitively and are dissatisfied afterwards.
Typically sensitive situations
- For example, you are annoyed that you have another task for that Team just because everyone else has said no sooner?
- Has your life partner or your partner already commented on your character and question the relationship?
- Do you laugh with the team against your will, even though you find the blond joke in the presence of the colleague pretty bad?
Such situations deserve a conscious engagement with them and new reactions. Be inspired by the elements of elegant repartee. Sometimes it also means simply ignoring a situation.
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