The overwhelming Impuls of emotions is terrifying
It is the overwhelming, often destructive, but also positive driving impulse that scares us at some emotions and makes them appear as a counterpoint to reason.
And that actually works quickly unprofessional. If a person regularly shows more than lukewarm emotions, he is quickly put into a drawer from which it is difficult to escape.
Feeling as a career-out?
"Oh the Huber, who reacts like many women fast as a mimosa." Or: "Yes, yes, the Schulze, with his compassion. He makes every mosquito an elephant. "
Thus, the demonstration of feelings is quickly used as a legitimation in order not to deal seriously with its concern or as a tactical instrument for maneuvering it into isolation.
Feel better under control?
That is why we often do better to hide emotions, if not very emphatically.
If you do not have your feelings under control, you quickly assume that you do not have other things under control: your time management, your budget, your employees ....
Use emotions consciously
Despite all this, emotions play such an enormously important role in our lives, in our decisions, for our behavior that we should pay more attention to them in business.
To deal with emotions consciously instead of being overwhelmed or manipulated by them or displacing them. Appropriately recognize, appreciate, show and use emotions. That is the goal!
Emotions to communicate them?
First of all, this involves experiencing and describing emotions at all. Some people are already having a hard time doing this. You may feel something, but you can not describe what exactly that is.
Result: In order to communicate the emotion, it must be lived out. It is roared, cried, (in the wrong place) laughed loudly ...
Describe instead of snooping
And that usually acts brusque, shocking, uncontrolled. Not the emotion as such, but the way it is expressed.
Better to perceive and describe what is happening there. Feelings are fractions of a second faster than thoughts. Heart and brain are thus active almost simultaneously.
What happens in the brain?
When emotions form, the brain coordinates two things:
- fast, automatic, impulsive processes
- slow, but open, reflexive processes
In the normal case, human emotions do not simply mean the rule of automatic impulses, but a combination of pre-determined affective tendencies and thoughtful-sensitive openness.
Emotions as suggestions to the mind
Everyday emotions do not force people, they make suggestions. So, let your mind take a little time to realize what is going on and describe it. Then you can say quite relaxed:
- "I find that very annoying"
- "That drives my anger into my face."
- "That makes me sad" "
- "That disappoints me".
- "That brings tears to my eyes."
- "That's absolutely ridiculous"
- "I find that very pleasing."
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