Why compliments are sometimes difficult
So far, so good: praise and compliments are with most people a door opener, all strive for social recognition and respect. This is as normal as human and in principle something positive.
However, this issue can be problematic in professional life, because sometimes it is difficult to react appropriately to compliments made by colleagues or supervisors.
There is a fine line between intrusiveness and serious praise. In the workplace, charming remarks should focus exclusively on benefits, successes or Teamwork relate.
Compliments related to looks can be risky - anything that could be interpreted as a touch should be taboo. Already for your own protection: How fast such a thing can come to the eye, repeatedly show media reports or discussions in social media.
5 Tips for perfect compliments
But how do you make perfect compliments which are not somehow ambiguous? With these 5 tips, compliments become a welcome gift.
- Avoid personalities: A compliment everyone likes to listen to, but in business life, it must never sound nice. In any case, ambiguities should be avoided, as this can easily lead to misunderstandings and anger. A colleague can already say to his colleague: You look charming again today. As a leader, you should avoid such statements better, because the more personal, the sooner you can be prosecuted.
- Spontaneous and honest: Basically: A compliment must be spontaneous and honest. Men make women's compliments - neither sexist nor old-fashioned. Otherwise, it is just as normal. Consider compliments as a gift to your counterpart, and let them decide whether to accept your gift.
- Special case Valentine's Day: Valentin is the patron saint of lovers. Since the 17. Century humans use the 14. February to give greetings or small gifts to your sweetheart. But on Valentine's Day, you can also pretty much go into the faux pas. Nowadays, not only his sweetheart is bestowed, it is fine to show his loved one out to family and friends, how important they are to you. Valentine's greetings on social media are okay in the private sector, just as little courtesies for a dear friend or good friend.
- Better no red roses: Red roses are always a symbol of love and deep affection. So if it's not your sweetheart, you're better off grabbing neutral attentions like sweets. Never give away chrysanthemums or carnations. Whether gifts for Valentine's Day are appropriate at the workplace depends on the respective corporate culture. You can bring a flower, but not a red rose, to nice colleagues.
- Unconditional gift giving: Sweets with a card are, however, more inviolable than flowers. In the business I would not exaggerate. Attentions I would only advise in a particularly good, friendly relationship with a customer and even only if the situation is appropriate, for example, one telephoned that day and wishes at the farewell a beautiful Valentine's Day.
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