2 X 8 Tips for dealing with difficult colleagues: How to act properly!



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Studies show that in Germany around 15 percent of working time is spent in the discharge of conflicts. Time spent on completing important tasks. 2 X 8 Tips on how to deal with you. 2 X 8 Tips for dealing with difficult colleagues: How to act correctly! 2 X 8 Tips for dealing with difficult colleagues: How to act correctly!

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Colleagues from annoying to scheming

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Everyone knows him, nobody likes him. Whether everlasting whiners, perfectionist know-alls or career-loving Schleimer, there are many reasons why colleagues get the label difficult. But you manage to get along well with them - if you know how.

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Because unfortunately we have to. The best thing would be to avoid the complicated contemporaries, but unfortunately this is not always possible. Every day we spend at least eight hours with them. A time that can also be extremely annoying, because many a table neighbor can go to one mind properly or more constantly others make or spin intrigues.

8 Difficult collegiate types and tips on how to deal with you

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However, there are ways to deal with difficult colleagues: you just have to know how they tick and treat them accordingly. We've put together a list of the quirks that can annoy colleagues the most - and what you can do about it without an open conflict breaking out.

  1. Caution babblers: The babbler who talks and talks and keeps you from working. With him it is a mistake to even engage in the conversation. Better is a clear "No" right at the beginning of the conversation. Or the scheming careerist: He never represents extreme views, but always adapts tactically clever to the opinion of the boss. He also judges people strategically about how important they are or could become in their careers. But he does not slurp his colleagues, but does not miss any opportunity to back out of mistakes made by others. You should therefore keep it polite and determined at a distance and offer as few attack points as possible by talking to him only about the work, but not about personal matters. You can also distract such annoying colleagues: engage him kindly, but unobtrusively with work: "Could you do me a great favor and get me file X from the archive?"
  2. Attention whiners! Bad for the atmosphere in the office is also the complainers: He never contributes anything, but is constantly dissatisfied because he has to work too long, has no responsible task, important things do not notice - and and and. Complainers read from all situations always only the negative out and complicate a fruitful cooperation. Even if it's hard: Do not be disturbed by a complainer: On his typical utterances like "That never works", you boldly: "Why not?"
  3. Beware of pessimists: Your colleague spoils the bad mood with constant pessimism? Just stand by your optimism: "With this organization this will never work" - "Yes, it will." If nothing else helps: Just ignore the colleague, because in the end you can never please him. Such pessimists should simply be praised, because they often have a weak self-esteem or are dissatisfied and therefore do not begrudge others the success.
  4. Show-off and know-it-all: Some colleagues make themselves in self-praise and show apparently great self-confidence. In fact, you seek recognition. Give them a little of it, but at the same time take the wind out of their sails: "Yes, I also think that you have done well for your last project. Keep it up."
  5. The sensitive: Appeal also needs the sensitive, a sympathetic, if somewhat exhausting contemporary: He carries his heart on the tongue and always has an open ear for others. But unfortunately he takes every hint of criticism as a personal offense, sometimes even tears flow. In order to be able to speak critically about the work, one should first emphasize the strengths and then attach criticisms.
  6. Show Schleimer in her place: The "nice" colleague wants to put himself in the right light again at your expense before the boss? Ask him directly for details he does not know. And specifically point out in your presence your boss on your own successes.
  7. Dealing with the choleric: In contrast, the choleric is completely unpredictable: As a rule, he is very committed, enthusiastically approaches new projects and implements them in a goal-oriented manner. He is open to others and happy usually says clearly what he thinks. As long as it goes, as the choleric wants, everything is fine. But when it goes against his grain, he seems to be completely out of his mind, while the others are cluelessly looking for the trigger. At this moment, just calmly wait until his anger is gone. Or this trick, if your colleague freaks out: Imagine, you examine as a director an actor during the audition on tantrum. Or: Concentrate on a specific detail - "If the vein on the right swells even more, it will burst ..."
  8. The scheming careerist: He never represents extreme views, but always adapts smartly to the opinion of the boss. He also judges people strategically about how important they are or could become in their careers. But he does not slurp his colleagues, but he never misses the opportunity to go after mistakes made by others. One should therefore keep him politely and definitely at a distance and offer as few targets as possible by talking to him only about the work, but not about personal matters.

8 First-aid tips for dealing with difficult colleagues

Overview

But what do you do now with difficult colleagues? First, one should be gracious: Everyone is complicated. Therefore, try to understand how your colleagues are ticking and apply the right means of communication. To do this 8 more tips:

  1. Conflict management: Just talk to your colleague. Often, therefore, discussions and jointly developed solutions can help both sides out of the impasse. Do not blame colleagues like "But you have ...", but formulate self-messages and say clearly how you feel, say, "I felt attacked and hurt by your outburst."
  2. Correctly criticize: You want to criticize a colleague, but suddenly bursts into tears? Give him time to calm down and wait in silence. Ask yourself if you were too confrontational. If not, continue with the factual explanation of your criticism.
  3. Always take feelings of colleagues seriously: By no means discount the emotions of others by saying something like, "Well, do not be so sensitive, it's not that bad." Everyone reacts differently and has a right to their sensations.
  4. The correct posture during confrontations: Stand upright and take an open posture, keeping your arms hanging loosely. Important: Demonstrate your self-confidence. Be sure to make eye contact, because if you drop your eyes, you will automatically go to penitentiary.
  5. Beware of personal problems: What to do if a colleague confronts you with personal problems? Take him seriously though: "I can understand that it puts a great strain on what you have told me ..." But do not let his problems come to you. Better: Make contact with a professional helper and then return to your work: "... I'm really sorry, but a professional can help you much better anyway ... I must now continue to work."
  6. When colleagues withhold information: Some colleagues like to keep information in order to use it alone for their work. A good way to get the information anyway: Ask specific questions about information before anyone else.
  7. Return the black Peter: Some colleagues can be really outrageous: "This is again one of your most thought-out suggestions. One has the impression that you have not listened properly to the boss. "Do not waste your thoughts on the content of the statement, but just comment on the nature of the attack - always in the we-form:" I would like to ask you to find the sound that suits our culture "," This style is not the style we are used to. Would you please remain objective, like everyone else "or" It does not match the level in this company to make such polemical utterances. "
  8. Insulate insolent colleagues in the group: If it gets too colorful for you: Exposing the outrageous colleague as the one who prevents productive work: "We do not come to a conclusion in terms of content", "It is in the interest of all here that we quickly deal with our issues", "We all wish us an efficient meeting. We have more important issues "or" With this type you prevent us from here progress. "This isolates the colleague in the group and - which is worse for him - makes him look bad to the boss.

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