Where are the differences?
People with mental illness or other impairments of the self-control ability1 belong (in fact) exclusively to the hands of appropriately trained therapists (and, of course, psychotherapy patients still have self-control skills!).
And we make this statement out of conviction and not because legal frameworks require that of us.
This delimitation has now also a very practical importance for the (internal) coach. Do not make any diagnoses if you are not trained to work with patients and diagnose. But tell it if they can not help or want!
If, within a coaching session, you come to the conclusion that you can not help the person who wants to be helped by you (for whatever reason), then say it. Straight out. Appreciative. And yet clearly.
Do not be afraid to describe your perception, but avoid advice. That is, avoid saying, "You need a therapy."
But describe the part of your impression that concerns you: I can not help you. If someone says to himself that he is ill or describes diseases: Do not say, "You need a doctor." Say, "I'm not a doctor."
Avoid judgments or attributions such as: "You are alcoholic." Or "You are alcoholic." (And do not ask, "Could it be that you are alcoholic?" Because that's the same.)
Describe what you perceive: "I smell alcohol with you. You look drunk on me (...)" Avoid diagnosing: "You are anorexic." But dare to put your impression into words. For example, say, "I notice that you are getting thinner and thinner." Or, "You smell like vomit. (...) "
Checklist - tasks of coaching
In order to make the differences clear, I have compiled the following checklist for you. And all these are not deficits in the coaching, but it is characterized by coaching in particular as technology and attitude.
- Do not take any responsibility for your presence and do not seek medical attention (symptoms) to confirm your diagnosis.
- As a coach, you do not diagnose and stick your clients into any ICD-10 drawers.
- As a coach, they do not make any recommendations and do not make any suggestions, ideas, advice or recipes.
- You do not do homework or home exercises.
- As a coach, you take no responsibility for the other and not for its goals, solutions or actions.
- They do not follow the inner attitude that you help a person who can not (alone) help himself.
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