Letting go is fear
The release of things, as well as that of foreign expectations, is strongly associated with fears. What happens if I no longer meet the requirements that are placed on me? Am I losing my job, my security?
Releasing, clearing out, reducing does not mean here:
- We've always done this way, it's going to stay that way.
- My knowledge has always been, why should I change something.
- That brings nothing.
Further training: Class instead of mass
Time and again, I meet people who have accumulated such an incredible amount of education and training that I'm getting very pale. "I do not have a car, I do not buy clothes and jewelery, I invest everything in mine Further education"A listener recently told me on the sidelines of my lecture. And yet he was unemployed, could not find a job.
The amount of further training alone does not seem to be enough. Possibly an investment in appearance and impact, in social competence or psychological know-how would have been more appropriate instead of the accumulation of more and more expert knowledge.
Change yes - but please the right!
More and more knowledge in less and less time - From the G9 to the G8 and back again. Clearly you have to try a lot - and if you fail, turn the wheel back or change the direction again.
How much Ritalin still has to be told how many teachers still suffer a burn out or something like this until you realize that although change is necessary, the wrong way has been taken.
The right balance is important
Inhaling and exhaling must alternate in the long term in a balanced rhythm, even if in the short term this rhythm can be overridden. Final sprint. While running as well as before a test. After that, it takes time again, where it is "normal".
What have you missed so far? What have you always wanted to make up for? Then nothing like ran, then it is synonymous again good. Do not go for the next qualification. The demands on your profession have changed dramatically?
People also need a composting phase
Get on, do an update - and then it's time to pause again. Just like a garden needs rest and regeneration in winter, humans also need a "compost phase". Digest, transform, so that everything can become fruitful.
That sounds too much like farming? Then call it "composing phase": in peace, install individual tones and mosaic stones in the overall orchestration, listen to them and find out if this is so in order and if necessary, if necessary.
The luxury of inaccessibility
No motor runs continuously without increased wear, even the parliament pays for a summer break. Whereas it was formerly a luxury and success criterion to be attainable, today the opposite is true: one must be able to afford (and want!) Not to be attainable. An interesting training field. How long do you think of doing nothing, thinking nothing, keeping silent, without watch, no mails? Check yourself:
- What are your expectations and expectations?
- How do you deal with such expectations?
- What is actually the price for it if you withdraw from them?
- What do you expect from yourself?
Over-fulfilled demands from the outside
The external demands put us under pressure especially when we ourselves expect to fulfill them or even to over-fulfill them. So ask yourself:
- Can I lower my own expectations and goals, focus on myself?
- Do I have to be constantly accessible by mobile phone, for example?
True compulsive situations are rare
Ursula von der Leyen, the Minister of Labor, also wants to limit her constant accessibility. Enjoy your time out.
You can not do that? But! Real real-world situations are much rarer than we think. And forced changes are often quite unhappy and much faster than we can imagine and want.
Changes are often unhappy
This is the serious accident that requires rethinking, the death of a child, there is the divorce that eludes the emotional and material foundation, there is the sudden loss of the workplace, the collapse: from now on equal is nothing more as it was ,
Many people manage to change and change many things in life. Is it always necessary to have such incisive experiences that force us to rethink, revaluate and radically change?
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