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I am not good enough?
Of course you can only guess that. But this belief could be, for example, that in sports for the team captains in the selection process is usually not good enough. This may be uncomfortable, but probably comes pretty close to the facts.
Unfortunately, however, we tend to encourage people to derive an inner conviction from the experience that ignores important details and generalize something that is not at all true.
Generalization and hiding details
Sometimes this generalization and hiding of details does not take place immediately, but only develops over the years. At the beginning there is the initial belief, not good enough for that in physical education Team be.
Over the years, it can consolidate the belief that you will never be good enough for others. A conviction that can be extremely hindering for both little and big people in life.
Through perception filter to the haybog
Whoever believes in himself to be never good enough for others has a perception filter that examines life for situations which seem to confirm this obstinate conviction.
In addition, a separate strategy is implemented, which aims to avoid situations that could call this belief into question. This is how the creatures like the dwarf-maker, the dark-eye, the hay-buoy or the printmaker are born.
Put questionable strategies in a suitcase?
Would it not be practical to put all limiting inner convictions, questionable values and unfavorable childhood and youth strategies into a suitcase as you enter the adult world and stow it in the basement, if at all, in one of the farthest corners?
Unfortunately, this does not work, perhaps because we have the old beliefs, values and strategies internally so hard wired.
Suddenly again child
Some people seem to be so attached to the inner impressions of their own childhood that little is needed to catapult them back to childhood in terms of behavior.
All they need is a situation where the (actually childish) strategy fits like a key to the castle. And - hey presto - the door is open, the scrape comes to the fore - and they freak out.
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