How to handle enviers?
Of course, it often seems easy to get help - after all, you can block users. However, social networks as a special form of communication have the disadvantage that a) communication takes place without the person concerned on the stage and b) all statements can be found by search functions.
Similar things can be heard from the universities, where fellow students, out of sheer envy, do not allow grades or work materials to disappear. The situation could be as follows: Two people do not like each other and while one person speaks badly, the other person ignores it and annoys him in silence.
If the envy would jump out of the face
The fellow students stand by and feel themselves forced into a decision: many are silent, others are taking part. In a classic way, as shown in the model, it happens that the envy is so dynamic, the work material disappears, word messages are mimic and / or gesticulated, or the volume exponentially increases. How do you deal with such people and situations?
It would be much easier if people were to speak envy literally off the face. Thus many a very beautiful person would become a grimace, or with his fingers, which could be pointed like arrows, would hurt other people directly. But since this is more of a wish than an actual event to be expected, the following information is worthwhile.
3 Tips for dealing with Neidernes
- Tolerance is never a way out. If a person speaks retrospectively, one should point out to these people that they do not agree with it. If no reassurance occurs, you should go to the envied person and inform about it.
- Transparency is important. Whoever thinks that it will somehow clarify, must be aware that passivity is also a form of encouragement. To this extent, efforts should be made to create transparency in such situations by acting either through active communication or through passive avoidance of this person.
- Consider criminal law consequences. Especially in work situations, it is difficult to decide, but it is worth the envious person to show the consequences.
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