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How to silence profile neurotic
If you are talking to a specimen of this species, you have two options. First, you pray that the monologizing Alphamännchen will automatically lose her desire and move on, which can, however, last.
Secondly - and that is my recommendation: you make sure that he loses the desire to get you covered. That's not so difficult, you just have to irritate the man. Men of his loft are used to being listened to, not interrupted, and certainly not contradicted.
Profile Neurosis - interrupt and irritate your counterpart
So you do just that, interrupt him, irritate him with naughty questions, take him out of the Concept.
When I was awarded the German Radiopreis in Hamburg two years ago, I came to the party after the award ceremony with one of the most influential German television managers.
When talks suddenly tip over thanks to profile neurosis
What started amusing at first began to develop into the alcohol-impregnated monologue of a frustrated media-maker, who apparently thought he could puke with me, so quickly passed over to scold at every thing, talked himself out loudly, finally offended me just before collapse.
I, on the other hand, just wanted to celebrate and not witness a heart attack, and when, after some time, I became too stupid, I simply asked the man, since when was he an alcoholic.
Bye Profile Neurotics - Dare!
His reaction is still in my mind: The powerful man went pale for a moment, his lips quivered, he struggled for composure, abruptly turned away, and the conversation or what he thought was over.
A few years ago, I would never have dared to react that way. And now I can!
You're not born a talker, you learn it
But I already mentioned that I was not born to the Talker, and if I have learned to put the finishing touch to a conversation this way, then you can do it, wishing you - opportunity to practice or never come into such an unpleasant situation.
Ending a conversation is usually even more difficult when you have a private or business conversation in private, without the ability to "shuffle" or "clap" so easily.
If business partners feel the same way
Everyone knows this unpleasant feeling that the other one might be offended if you say goodbye now. But I can assure you, in most cases, your counterpart just feels the same and will only be grateful if you end the conversation quickly.
By the way, what good does it do to the other if you are not completely in the game and just wait for the next best moment to leave. Only a few people are not able to notice these subtleties.
Better an end with horror ...
Before the conversation becomes a torment, remember the righteousness: Better an end with horror than a horror without end!
I therefore recommend that you be as honest as possible and that you politely but firmly declare to the other that you have to go to the next, equally important appointment and also be there on time.
A talk with Rolf Eden
Also, in my early years as a talker, I had a hard time completing conversations with special guests because I thought it was rude not to let the other talk out until he really did not remember anything.
I remember with horror a "Mensch, Otto!" Program with Rolf Eden, the old master of the Playboys, who was still waiting with a slippery anecdote and, as the hour drew to a close, only really on the move and barely too stop was.
Better not a good listener
I was young and inexperienced and listened to him when we were no longer on the air and my ears were already rustling.
When the bunny gentleman said goodbye after two hours, saying, "You really are a great listener," I knew right away that I did not want that compliment at all and that in the future I would have to do some things differently.
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