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Why do I need to end a call?
There are a variety of reasons why it is necessary to end a conversation, as for example:
- The scheduled time is around,
- there is nothing left to say
- the call has been irrevocably fixed
- or you simply reached your target.
How to finish a conversation elegantly
Many people find it difficult to develop a sense of when it's time to end a conversation. We all know such unpleasant situations with strangers at a party, with colleagues in the office or with friends at home.
At some point, one of the topics of conversation starts, one becomes bored or just wants to talk to other people in the room. But how do you elegantly end a conversation without being rude or even offending the other?
When Small Talk becomes a real plague
For all those involved, a conversation that is only rattled off and painstakingly kept alive is exhausting and, above all, time-consuming. So do yourself and your counterpart a favor and put an end to the torment, if possible without any ado.
Of course, it depends on the situation you are in, how fast and how directly you end the conversation.
Small talk with the Federal President?
If you are at a reception of the Federal President and Joachim Gauck would like to exchange a few words with you, I would recommend that you take a little time, even if you would rather just strap on with the blond hostess, who serves the appetizers.
But a minimum of flair for the situation I simply simply advance, because otherwise you would not have at all to my book grasped.
Do not talk about the bush!
The easiest way to end a conversation is by apologizing and communicating that you still need to speak with another person in the room. Especially for receptions, parties, invitations with several guests, this seems to me a very appropriate method.
Of course, the sound also makes the music here again: A friendly "I'm sorry, I would like to talk to you even longer, but I have to necessarily Mrs. / Mr. XY still speak", accompanied by a small smile, probably no one in get the wrong neck.
Make it like Starkoch Alfons Schuhbeck
Anyone who would like to say good-bye with a saying or a witty remark to turn to the next person should already master the high school of communication.
A true master in ending a conversation without making you feel stupid is celebrity chef Alfons Schuhbeck.
Several times I have watched him travel under fifteen minutes in the fifty meters that lie between his two restaurants in Munich, although on the short route he is regularly approached by an estimated twenty people.
Always a nice word ready
Nevertheless, he has a nice word for everyone, a pat on the back or at least an autograph left over and everyone is looking forward to a few seconds of attention from Schuhbeck. To this day, it's a mystery to me how the "Fonse" does that.
There's more to it, but I have not yet revealed that secret. In the meantime, I'm sure it works because it does not strain him and people feel like talking to them.
For those who want a simpler solution, I recommend using their glass. This works well again at parties and receptions.
Cheer on the other person and saying goodbye, "It was nice to talk to you, but I think we are expected to mix with people."
The following method requires a little more sophistication, which resembles a reverse flip-flop while dancing.
Just hand your conversation partner over to the next acquaintance by putting them together imagine, to address a common theme and to express your hope that they will be able to cope without you in the next few minutes.
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