Authority force personality
Leaders, however, need exactly this authoritarian effect. The more it is broadcast by the personality, the less it has to insist on the authority it holds through expertise or position (office).
Authority that comes out of the personality is automatically perceived through non-verbal and verbal signals. Thus, a sovereign behavior is the result of a leadership - the power it takes to lead - a leadership personality that leads through personal authority and sovereign behavior.
The power of body language
Some people wobble from one leg to another as he speaks, another grasps his nose, and another one lifts the tip of the shoe as opposed to his.
Fatal also the turning away of the gaze in the moment, where important things are said or - with presentations - the permanent avoidance of the eye contact by a view to the projection surface on the wall.
Also linguistically uncertainties are to be observed through hectic or too soft speaking, unconscious filler words, possibility formulations ("I would say, one could perhaps ...") or negative statements about oneself.
These many small signals in behavior and language play an immense role in the effect. But who can do it when it comes to thinking about it? Because most of the time is happening completely unconsciously.
Practice, practice, practice!
So no change will work! On the one hand, all these habits are based on personality. Sustainable change thus begins with the beliefs, inner convictions and patterns. Blockages must give way to self-assurance.
On the other hand, it has mainly to do with exercise. Habits can be replaced by better habits with exercise, new patterns must arise. That this does not work in the live situation is obvious. So it takes practice before the mirror, with the video camera and in the seminar.
Development to authenticity
The good news is that by changing and adapting new patterns of behavior and the resulting positive feedback of the environment also the self-confidence and thus the personality grows. It's worth it twice.
And the authenticity? Because altered behaviors, you might fear, might affect others artificially, surprisingly, and strangely. This unauthentic effect may actually arise when we make body language aware.
Consistently change his behavior
Think of a routine task such as brushing your teeth, which they do largely unconsciously and automatically. Change now details, for example, clean with the other hand than before, this is only bumpy. In addition, you want to fall back in her familiar pattern.
If you consistently execute the new style, however, this will soon be your new pattern and they will soon forget the old one. Then the new pattern suddenly appears to be experienced and authentic. Changing behavior is rarely possible without losing authenticity in the meantime. But in the end there is a new authenticity.
The way to the top: without change is not possible!
Behavior then acts authentically when it looks natural. New behavior is authentic if it is executed often enough. However, anyone who tries to stay as always, in order not to lose the authenticity, will change.
There will be no change on the way to the top. New tasks must be fulfilled as well as the old ones. Authenticity through standstill would be fatal.
The goal of a leader who is to be accepted with respect and who receives recognition and authority through her personality is: sovereignty in any situation that looks professional and authentic. For this I have developed the term "professional authenticity".
Why jewels shine and pebbles are gray
An appearance that aims at the right image and at the same time means a completely authentic effect. In the subtitle, my eponymous book is also called "Why a jewel glitters and pebbles are gray", because an authentically crafted jewel attracts attention and attracts people. A pebble, however, remains gray and unimpressive.
Becoming a jewel is the result of a conscious development process. As a coach, I have accompanied many people. It is a process that creates a confident, charismatic and convincing person who achieves his goals with ease and deliberately and purposefully creates his own image. A leader.
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