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Lies as a soft skill?
Lies have a bad name. Unfairly Ute Ehrhardt and Wilhelm Johnen and have the honor of saving the well-formed untruth the book "If I'm honest, then I lie really good" submitted.
No doubt that every now and then we all take a white lie or fib something, so as not to offend others (right, right?). That must be so, because "flattery is the universal lubricant in interpersonal contact."
Lies as an intellectual maximum
But that's only marginally. Rather, the authors work out the immense social dimension of everyday lies: "The ability to lie is an intellectual achievement, without whose existence no social world is possible."
And they boldly claim that two in three lies are "pro-social" and serve social peace. "So soft skills that are not taught anywhere. But they are still in use everywhere.
He who lies is loved
Ehrhardt and Johnen provide numerous proofs about mogels that maintain love, strengthen business relationships and weld friendships.
It is always about one lying (or even the truth is silent) and the other likes to accept this untruth. "With obtrusive honesty we would mess up jobs and relationships."
Why penetrating honesty makes unhappy
Of course, you also lie to yourself - and probably more often than you think. For example, if you bend doubtful decisions before yourself or hide interfering elements. Stay with it.
Otherwise, you must interrogate your ego without a pause. You would not be happier with it.
Who is lying?
Who lies, comes on in life. But you should not overdo it. "Only if we seldom and well lie, we can make a profit out of it".
Feelings of guilt should be quickly faded out. Lies that benefit you and others are always the right choice. Especially if they are presented convincingly. "It has to be integrable into everything else that is related to you."
Although the title suggests a fun ramble through the world of cheating and bluffing, "If I'm honest, then I'm really good at lying," is a serious non-fiction book that shows us that many of the small, everyday chitchas are perfectly okay ,
After reading, you will not be a bad person, nor a better one. But you will feel better if you avoid half-truths in uncomfortable questions.
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