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Lies as a soft skill?
Lies have a bad reputation. Unjustly my Ute Ehrhardt and Wilhelm Johnen and have published the book "If I am honest, then I am lying really well" to save the well-formulated untruth.
No doubt that we all resort to a white lie from time to time or flicker something so as not to offend others (right?). It has to be that way too, because “flattery is the universal lubricant in interpersonal contact.”
Lies as an intellectual maximum
But that's only a side issue. Rather, the authors work out the immense social dimension of everyday lies: “The ability to lie is a top intellectual achievement, without whose existence no social world is possible”.
And make the bold statement that two out of three lies are “pro-social” and serve social peace. ” So soft skills that are not taught anywhere. But which are still used everywhere.
He who lies is loved
Ehrhardt and Johnen provide numerous proofs about mogels that maintain love, strengthen business relationships and weld friendships.
It is always about someone lying (or even hiding the truth) and the other happy to accept this untruth. "With penetrating honesty, we would screw up jobs and relationships."
Why penetrating honesty makes unhappy
Of course, you also lie to yourself - and probably more often than you think. For example, if you bend doubtful decisions before yourself or hide interfering elements. Stay with it.
Otherwise, you must interrogate your ego without a pause. You would not be happier with it.
Who is lying?
Whoever lies gets further in life. But don't overdo it. "Only if we rarely and well lie can we make a profit from it."
You should quickly hide feelings of guilt. Lies that benefit you and others are always the right decision. Especially if they are presented convincingly. "It has to be integrated into everything else that is related to you."
Even if the title suggests a fun foray through the world of cheating and bluffing: "If I'm honest, then I'm lying really well" is a serious non-fiction book that shows us that many of the small, everyday cheats are completely okay .
After reading, you will not be a bad person, nor a better one. But you will feel better if you avoid half-truths in uncomfortable questions.
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