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When adults become children
Eric Berne, an American psychiatrist and founder of the transactional analysis (a psychological theory of human personality structure), already recognized mid-20. Century that adult people can be brought into a childlike, self-limiting state.
He called this mode the so-called "child-ego," distinguishing it from the "parent-ego" and "adult-self." A person who is in the "child-ego" makes himself smaller than he really is and experiences the world around him from a child's perspective.
Incidentally, this is an Eldorado for Wusel like the Dwarven maker. He can do this either from the perspective of a more defensive, adapted child and respond to the environment in a resigned, anxious, uncertain, helpless or inhibited way, depending on the context.
Or he can take the perspective 15 of an aggressive, rebellious child and be capricious, insolent, angry, hateful, whining or dissatisfied.
I can do that - and not!
In addition to the mostly problematic state of the "child-ego" there is another, no less problematic state, namely that of the "parent-self". Do you know this when your own inner voice tells you what you are not allowed to do, what you have to do, what you should or should not do?
In this state one experiences oneself as reproving, accusing, condemning, judging, punishing, authoritative and authoritarian. Wusels like the pressure-maker or the regulary fan find this state optimally, the man, who is in the state, rather not.
This know-how is, of course, not only in the internal dialogue, but also in communication with others.
Wusels can arise at any time in our lives. And the fundamentals for this are usually laid very early. When a child, in his childlike logic, from the experience and the hearing, not only forms convictions that support his development, the ideal basis for the emergence of a Wusel is present.
Out of a mixture of limiting beliefs, limiting values, and unfavorable strategies, a sabotage program that can be very affectionate is disrupted in this way and evolves into adulthood.
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