Relentlessly honest or rather a compliment
This is not supposed to be morally acidic Article are about ethical responsibility and the duty to tell the truth. In fact, with all the love of truth, I am now convinced that our society would probably not work without the little white lies that make our interpersonal relationships more pleasant.
Just imagine that your day would start relentlessly honestly, for example with a bucket in the morning: "You look wrong again today, probably drunk all night." greet instead of simply saying "The dress looks good on you". What do you think would happen? N / A? Just!
Dizziness kills efficiency
In fact, I want to draw your attention to a completely different aspect: how productivity suffers from the big and small interpersonal gibberish - and that dizziness in terms of productivity can also become a big problem. I recently experienced that first-hand again.
In one case I got an issue on the desk where it was clear that the sender wanted to avoid the final decision. In fact, I had it on my neck now, but didn't feel like it. So I just forwarded the thing like that, motto: "You mess around with it". That was fatal, because the decision came back like a boomerang and caused a long rat tail of discussions, in which I had to constantly mediate between two sides. That cost time and unnecessary nerves!
It is always more effective to address things immediately!
It would have been better, above all more effective, that I would have taken care of the matter straight away: addressed them directly, asked for a clear statement, asked about them, set a deadline - all the things that you do not like to do because you are not unfriendly or Want to be "the ass" - or because you don't want to be stressful.
I am speaking here from my perspective as a woman, who is usually so socialized that they don't want to fuss. Men are said to be different and deal directly with conflicts. In fact, I often experience this behavior in men - for example, in precisely this case. Conversely, my impression is that this is often accepted more by men than by women, where friendly behavior is often expected.
Is that somehow? Rather not!
But not immediately saying what you want, even though you have already made the decision for yourself, does not only lead to unnecessary discussions. It also causes unnecessary extra work that could simply have been saved. For example, because you try to somehow slip your ideas under the motto "it will work somehow" - often it just doesn't work.
I had an example of this last week as well: An author had offered me an article for Best of HR – Berufebilder.de® to write. Since the offer did not sound bad, I accepted. When I got the article, I suddenly realized what was behind it:
Unclear statements mean unnecessary extra work
In the text, there were clearly links in several places that were intended to optimize the sender's search engine - peppered with a lot of keywords and in a way that you wouldn't normally link to. Seeding is the technical term for this procedure. I rejected the article. If the author had said straight away what she was doing, she could have saved herself the trouble.
My conclusion from these two experiences: Small white lies may be morally justifiable - they are more of a poison for productivity and effective collaboration. What experiences have you had in this regard?
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