Goals or self-love?
Books and texts on "Do not give a fuck" seem to be in full swing, self-love is "in". This includes simply letting 5 be straight and not dodging every seemingly desirable target.
For it is important to separate whether one really wants to pursue these goals and those of oneself, whether the chosen goals really correspond to one's own values or have only been triggered by others.
7 resolutions that you should reconsider
This thought has inspired me to this unusual list of intent, which is intended to rethink their own goals again.
1. A morning person will be:
Some time ago I interviewed entrepreneur Eric Pateman in Vancouver. He says he works most prolifically when he gets up at 3 in the morning. Again and again, I read from people who work best early in the morning, such as between 5 and 6 Watch. All this could lead one to the intent to get up earlier.
Tip: Do not do that if you're not a morning person and your biorhythm does not get you out of bed by 6 in the morning anyway. Why torture yourself when you become productive later in the day? Incidentally, I'm the other way round: I'm often already active on 6 clock, but it would be better to have a slightly different rhythm again.
2. Defeat your weaknesses:
Everyone has weaknesses. Some like chocolate, the others are late. People are not perfect and that makes them adorable. Of course it is good to work on his weaknesses. But the question is, how effective is it really to spend time on a thing that you're not good at doing a little bit better?
Tip: Work on your strengths, the things that you like and that you are already good at. Because in these areas, you have the opportunity to really bring top performance.
3. To become neat:
Marie Kendo is trend, organizing, clearing out and tidying up are important topics in the current discussion. All necessary topics, without question. And yet, these tips also suggest one thing: one is unhappy when one is messy. I do not plead for sinking into chaos. But it does not do anything to make you, always tidy up the apartment, if you rather tend to disorder and then do not do it.
Tip: Hire a cleaning lady to do it for you and you'll have time for things you can do better.
4. Many new projects start:
Having ideas, being productive and creative is undoubtedly great and important. But what happens if we go too far? Quite simply: we overwhelm ourselves! Because multitasking does not exist. Being overburdened with the many options we have to choose from in everyday life has also been swift, not just because we are rubbing off between career and family planning. Excessive demands often begin on a small scale, eg because bosses and colleagues make demands on us and we are afraid to say no.
Tip: Think carefully about what your goals in life are. Do not let yourself get in the way. And then you stop baffling between external demands and your ideas, but focus on your goals.
5. Keep the control:
We live in an insecure world, afraid of job loss, globalization, terrorism or other unpredictable things. Understandable. Unfortunately, many people are responding to this personal insecurity by trying to plan and control their lives as accurately as possible. But that does not work in many cases, because as the saying goes: Forecasts go in the pants.
Tip: Letting go, living in the here and now and not trying to foresee and control all imponderables from the outset.
6. Laugh at problems:
Positive thinking is also a frequently heard tip. Of course, that still applies. However, this does not mean that you "put away" your critical mind and say yes and amen to everything. While positive thinking and laughter tend to make us more productive, it does not do anything to laugh at problems and conflicts rather than deal with them.
Tip: Actively address conflicts and issues when improvement is possible. To be satisfied with a situation if that does not work. And learn to recognize the difference.
7. Always be in a good mood:
Even that falls under false positive thinking, but goes a little further. Our society gives us the impression that we have to go through life happily and with full energy at all times and start the many new projects mentioned under point 4 - and if we do not succeed, then we are losers and blame ourselves on the misery.
I do not know about you, but for example, the well-intentioned statement "Enjoy that" strikes me as unbelievable because behind it I feel the constant compulsion to be in a good mood. It can also be incredibly productive, just hanging around, even with a bad mood. Apart from the fact that every person needs breaks, lows help to enjoy the beautiful things in life more.
Tip: Everything is possible, nothing is neccesary.
Conclusion: motivate goals, but do not exaggerate
What we can find out: Goal can motivate and drive us immensely. But you can also scare off us if you do not suit us and our values.
Therefore, we should think about it carefully. In this sense: do not let stress. Certainly not by good intentions.
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